I struggle with listening.
And as I pay more attention to the conversations I’m having, it seems I’m not the only one.
Science has confirmed what is easy to observe: We humans like to talk about ourselves. We like to share our experiences with others.
While this may be natural, it unfortunately leads to countless conversations where we fail to ask any questions at all and instead just speak at each other.
Why do we do this? Apparently, it’s as simple as this: it feels good.
“Why, in a world full of ideas to discover, develop, and discuss, do people spend the majority of their time talking about themselves? Recent research suggests a simple explanation: because it feels good.”
I don’t want to be a person who interrupts the moment an idea enters my mind. I don’t want to be someone who cannot respectfully listen to others.
So for the past few years, I’ve been making a deliberate and conscious effort to always be asking questions. And to listen to a person’s full response before continuing the conversation.
Through this, I’ve learned a great deal about how others see the world. It’s also been an excellent opportunity to practice patience.
I know I still get distracted and interrupt, but I’m working on replacing that behavior with intentional listening.
So tell me… how’s life for you these days?
No interruptions, I promise.