Lately, I’ve been thinking about my identity.
What are my roles and priorities?
From whom (or what) do I seek approval?
Sure, I’m a son to 2 parents and a brother to 4 siblings, someone who enjoys reading, traveling, lifting weights, and programming. 📚✈️🏋️♂️💻
But these are superficial answers to a deeply important question.
Who actually am I?
If you ask me what my priorities are, I would quickly list them in this order: God, my wife, my son, and my work.
But what does the way I spend my time say about my priorities? I spend most of my time focused on work, followed by my son, my wife, and finally God. My time is spent exactly opposite to the priorities I claim to have.
In thinking through this, I believe I’ve been approaching it all wrong. These are not mutually exclusive roles. There’s no need to complete one before starting another.
I can be a disciple of Jesus at work by being honest and reliable. Working is part of being a husband and father because it is an opportunity to provide for my family and set an example of how to submit to and respect those I work with.
Life is not about completing your daily chores so you can get to the “meaningful stuff.” We must decide who we are and then live from that foundation.
So who am I, really?
I am a child of God. Saved by grace and getting to know the author of life.
I am a husband. Learning to serve and cherish my wife because God has given her to be my helper and companion.
I am a father. Striving to love and guide my son.
I am a worker. Committed to earn my pay honestly and encourage and motivate those I work with.
I fail at all of these on a regular basis. I find myself chasing work, money, or the approval of others often. 😞
But I’m learning each and every day. My heart is being shaped and refined.
And I’m excited to be on this journey.