I’m hopelessly in love with my wife. 😍
She is my companion. A helper and friend.
But I don’t think she’s my “soulmate.” I don’t think she’s the only one I could have ended up with.
I think we are perfect for each other because we chose to be together. We made a vow before God and family to love, serve, and cherish one another.
I make this choice again each morning. To love and serve her today. To remember that she does not exist to make me happy, but to make me holy. She does not exist to make my life easier, but to point me toward Jesus.
I’m learning that the way to be joyful and satisfied in marriage is to put myself aside. To accept that I am not the most important person in the family. To be a servant.
This can be difficult. Accepting that happiness is not the goal of a relationship changes things. Understanding that a healthy relationship is built on serving one another changes things.
Love is not just a feeling. It is action. It is intention. It is a choice. If you choose to love and serve your spouse, I believe God will honor that by teaching and shaping you into a better partner.
As a final thought, I think marriage is also a really fun adventure. Being able to “do life” with someone you trust and respect is an incredible blessing.
If these observations are short-sighted, please forgive me… I’ve only been married for five years. Long enough to learn a few things, but short enough to still be a beginner. 😅